Posted by: 2in10 | 08/16/2011

bag guilt

I stopped at the organic vegetable farm in town today, and when I had gathered my produce, the farmer manning the stand forgave me for not having a shopping bag along. “No bag guilt,” she said kindly.

I walked back to the car, with a borrowed fabric bag holding corn, cucumbers and tomatoes, thinking about survivor’s guilt. It can be hard to be with someone who is very sick with cancer, or someone who is dying from cancer, and not wonder why some get well and many don’t.

But I liked Melanie’s easy comment, judgment free: No bag guilt. Borrow one of our bags and bring it back next week. Survivor’s guilt doesn’t help anyone; it just gets in the way of being present for someone who wants our company at a very special time.

Take good care — and enjoy those tomatoes finally ripening in our New England gardens!



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